Are you prepared to see what
you already suspect?
Seeing the results
first hand will most likely be a sickening experience. You should have a
support system in place and you should definitely read up on the materials
we recommend in Resources for the injured spouse. This can be a life
changing revelation and not on that should be done without thought. Your may
feel humiliated or you may feel that your marriage is over. Trust us, we
know, we've been where you are. PLEASE proceed carefully.
Are you unsure of
how your spouse will react to exposing his internet porn use?
If you have ever felt threatened or afraid of your spouse OR your spouse
has a history of violence, you should know where all your local shelters and
you should start making plans to exit with all your necessary supplies (ID,
Birth Certificates, prescriptions, etc.). NOTHING is worth being beaten or
killed over and you MUST make sure you are prepared for a strong reaction.
This is a powerful addiction that causes most people terrible shame. PLEASE
take the necessary precautions for your own safety.
If this is about exposing
my spouse, why do you use "Doe" names?
We like to believe that for most people, the threat of their activities
being exposed will be enough. People think the internet is "anonymous" when
nothing is further from the truth. Unlike people, computers NEVER lie.
Further, we are not about
crushing people for fun - we're about saving families. We believe that for a
good majority of these addicts just knowing they can be exposed for what
they do will be enough to change.
Do I really need to know?
The fact of the matter is that pornography addiction is proven to cause
high risk behaviors like unprotected sex and the use of prostitutes. We
highly recommend you find out exactly what your mate does on line so you can
protect your life.
What if you find illegal content on the computer such as child porn?
We would be legally, ethically and morally obligated to report this to
the proper authorities. A person who would have items such as these is
dangerous to young children and as such we can not allow them to go
unreported.
